Oh no he didn't

I avoid confrontation. I do not like to fight. I do not like to argue.

However, sometimes you are forced to defend yourself because some people believe they can walk up to you and say whatever they want. I was in Royal Oak one night with friends enjoying food and drink at that Mexican restaurant with the red peppers on it. I can never remember the name.

Everything seemed to be going great. Then out of the blue my evening changed.

Some guy walked up to me with his woman and said: "You are a chicken shit writer and a coward."

He walked away. The first thing that went through my mind is that "sticks and stones may break my bones but words shall never hurt me."

But I could not let this guy get away with it. He walked up to me and insulted me in front of his woman. He probably figured I would not confront him but I was in a spicy mood. So I followed him to the entrance of the restaurant and tapped him on the shoulder.

"I don't know who you are," I said. "But you are the coward. Who are you to walk up to me like that and then walk away?"

He looked at me as if he were crazy. I could tell the young lad was scared. So I turned to his woman.

"Is this your boyfriend," I asked.

She nodded her head no. They were on a first or second date.

"My advice to you is to get rid of this loser. He shows no respect and he is a coward. He walks up to me and insults me and then when I confront him he becomes all respectful and quiet. Ditch this dude."

He never said another word and left.

I always wonder what happened to that couple. Did she take my advice and deep six this guy? Or did they become a couple? I do not think she hung with him for long.

I understand you are not going to like everything I write and everything I say. You are not going to like some of my show topics on the Valenti and Foster Show. We can debate. But let's do it in a respectful way.

What I do is not that serious. It is sports. It is talk. It is shooting the breeze. Sometimes you want to vent. I understand that.

I get phone calls on my Detroit News voice mail calling me all kinds of derogatory and racist names. I've had guys call disagreeing with a sports topic call and say they want to rape my wife and daughter.

Really?

They often do not leave phone numbers. But I've had people call me the N word and a coward and they leave their number. I often call them back and they become the nicest people in the world.

They just had a bad moment, they said.

Really?